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a manifesto for modern social life:
👋 I’m Evan.
I’m a Party Coach.
And I’m here to save our social life.
Even though I’m usually the first one on the dance floor and the last to leave, I never imagined that my life as a nerdy raver would lead me here.
But after 15 years moving through the music scene, the wellness world, and the personal development industry — and after witnessing the impact of lockdown isolation on our minds, our friendships, and our sense of self — something became painfully clear:
We don’t know how to connect anymore.
We’re overstimulated but undernourished.
We scroll more than we show up.
We numb, avoid, compare, perform, ghost.
And we call it fun.
That’s why I created The Party Within — a tactical, 7-stage method to rebuild your social life from the inside out.
Not with shame.
Not with fake positivity.
But with presence, courage, and connection.
WHAT IS “PARTY WITHING”?
It’s not about chasing the next high.
It’s about living in a way where you stop wasting the moments that matter.
To PARTY WITHIN is to reject regret, boredom, and the endless grind of performative living.
It’s not about escaping life — it’s about finally showing up for it.
This isn’t just a workbook.
It’s a lifestyle rebellion against everything keeping us small, numb, or distracted.
THE PARTY WITHIN METHOD
A 7-stage social fitness framework for people who are ready to stop hiding and start connecting.
I didn’t make this up in a marketing brainstorm.
I lived this.
After years of overindulging, underconnecting, and trying every wellness hack in the book, I needed something grounded. Something real. So I built it.
Here’s how it works:
1. DETOXIFY POSITIVITY
Reset your dopamine. Reclaim your attention.
We start by cutting the noise: screen time, distractions, and fake highs. We create space for clarity — because most of us are too numb to even know what we want.
2. MAKE PEACE WITH GHOSTS
Let go of past identities, toxic nostalgia, and dead friendships.
We carry so much from the past that no longer serves us. This stage helps you release the stories that keep you stuck in cycles of avoidance, regret, and self-doubt.
3. SPARK THE PARTY WITHIN
Find your flow. Build habits that energize, not deplete.
This isn’t about productivity — it’s about finding your fuel. We focus on sustainable rituals that spark creativity, aliveness, and momentum — without needing a drink or a dopamine hit to get going.
4. DROP THE ARMOR
Build authentic confidence — without faking it.
You don’t need to be the loudest in the room. But you do need to feel solid in your own skin. This stage helps you dissolve the performance and show up with real presence.
5. FIND YOUR TRIBE
Curate connection. Protect your energy.
You become who you surround yourself with. This step helps you prune old social patterns and build relationships that actually fuel you — not drain you.
6. HOST YOUR CEREMONY
Create moments that matter. Lead with meaning.
You don’t have to be an “event person” to bring people together. This stage teaches you how to design gatherings, nights out, or quiet hangs that feel real — not just loud.
7. PARTY FOR LIFE
Live a social life that’s actually sustainable.
This isn’t a 30-day sprint. It’s a long game. You’ll build the rhythms, rituals, and resilience you need to stay grounded — while still having a damn good time.
WHY THIS WORKS:
The Party Within works because it helps you stop outsourcing your energy.
It builds the muscle of social fitness — so you can connect, lead, and thrive without overthinking every interaction.
It’s not about changing who you are.
It’s about remembering how to show up as yourself — and actually enjoy it.
💥 THE MISSION: PARTY FOREVER
We are not here to waste our time, our potential, or our lives on bullshit.
We are here to:
Show up — fully
Connect — deeply
Thrive — sustainably
Release — what no longer serves
Create — memories, moments, and meaning
This is what it means to PARTY FOREVER: To stop chasing what doesn’t work.
To start living like you mean it.
If you’ve been wasting your time, your weekends, or your potential — the Party Within is your map out.
Let go.
Live more.
Regret less.
Party on.
what qualifies someone to be a “party coach”?
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During 15+ years in music/nightlife I attended over 1000 festivals/concerts, experiencing the highs and lows of the "party scene" — and while humans have a universal need to CONNECT, many of us get trapped between anxiety, fear, or booze/substances.
After a 3 day festival a friend asked: “Why can’t we do this every weekend without feeling like shit on Monday?”
Fast forward 4 years, and I now help ANYONE connect with their natural confidence, set clear intentions for their social life, and thrive without needing booze or substances (or giving them up forever).
Clients appreciate that I bring over 2 decades of coaching experience. In addition to certifications in Hot Yoga and thousands of hours in personal & team development—workshops, retreats, and masterminds—the core of my work actually comes from 8 years in the elite college & MBA admissions field, consulting the highest performing students on how to leverage their authentic confidence successfully into their dream schools.
Which is quite similar to helping people develop the natural confidence to unleash their dream social life.
But the number 1 skill of any coach is LISTENING. I want to hear from you: what’s working and not working in your social life? From there, we can work towards letting go of all the battles you don’t need to fight anymore:
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from article at Sinclair news:
Evan Cudworth didn’t set out to become the world’s first Party Coach. Growing up in a suburb of Illinois, his life was a patchwork of passions: playing cello and bass guitar in his church band, navigating teenage identity questions during games of truth or dare, and trying to fit into every social circle. He was the kid who wanted everyone to like him, the person always seeking connection but unsure of where he truly belonged.His early years were marked by moments of discovery and longing—like a Malibu-fueled summer night that brought his first kiss and a fleeting sense of understanding. Yet, that connection often felt just out of reach. As Evan moved through his 20s, alcohol and substances became tools to stretch those fleeting moments of belonging into something more lasting. The longer he partied, the harder it became to reconcile the highs of connection with the inevitable lows of anxiety, regret, and longing for something deeper.
By his 30s, Evan realized that nostalgia, the most potent drug of all, wasn’t hitting like it used to. He never reached rock bottom but knew he was chasing a version of himself that no longer existed. What he wanted wasn’t another endless night—it was a new way to show up, connect, and thrive.
Drawing on years of personal growth through meditation, journaling, yoga, and cold plunges, Evan began to reimagine his relationship with nightlife. Instead of abandoning the party, he decided to rebuild it. He saw the potential to bridge the gap between wellness and nightlife, creating spaces where people could connect without relying on substances or performative behaviors.
In 2020, Evan announced his pivot to full-time coaching, leaning into a new vision of social life. Party Coach was born from a desire to help others find what he had discovered: the ability to enjoy peak social experiences without the crash. With a mix of intention-setting, dopamine detoxes, and practical tools for authentic connection, he began guiding clients to redefine their relationships with themselves and their communities.
Today, Party Coach isn’t just about parties. It’s about creating a semi-sustainable social life—a way to show up, let go, and build real connections without losing yourself in the process. From his roots in small-town Illinois to the dance floors of global festivals, Evan’s journey is a testament to the idea that better parties—and better lives—start within.
what i do
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For professionals & creatives who want to feel naturally confident, unleash their full potential, I currently offer two programs:
BRO TO FLOW
men 25-35
earning 150k+
sick of wasting their potential cause they’re anxious, bored, or hungover
turned off or intimidated by the "woo woo" of the wellness scene
spend 5 months mastering the KNOWFUN mindset that prioritizes resilience & connection
FREE THE PARTY WITHIN
professionals & creatives 25 - 45
have begun a path to intentional substance use, are sober or sober-curious
desire to feel social & confident as their current selves
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Hosted & collaborated on dozens of live event series, such as:
Wellness & beach parties in Santa Monica, CA
Moon Crew
Moon circle on Venice Beach that met every full & new moon for 3 years
Incorporated yoga, live music, &
Anti-Anxiety Pregames
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founded KNOWFUN, the world's most radical digital community that mixes party culture & wellness:
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frequent speaker at colleges, music festivals, & news outlets.
media requests
contact: evan@partycoach.me
FEATURE IN GQ
“These clients don't really come to me because I act like an expert or guru. It's because I'm offering a shame-free space to explore different ways to “party.” Does the world really need a party coach? I have these doubts all the time, but I also know that people are sick of being told to “optimize” their life while feeling angry or insane, like they're just not having fun.”
Press & Media Appearances
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happy clients speak to la times:
“There are all sorts of coaches — life, spiritual, career, fitness — who promise to help in one facet of your life or another. But as a party coach, Cudworth is unique (he’s the only one that Google turns up).
“It’s been really helpful encouraging me to get over my anxiety, get over myself, get over needing substances, and just actually get out there and be social,” Demyanovich said.”
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national desk
“If you want to have fun, you cannot chase nostalgia,” says Evan Cudworth in the TikTok that’s been viewed over 400,000 times.
Then, he introduces himself: “I’m the world’s first party coach, and I help people enjoy peak social experiences.”
Read more at The National Desk.
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party coach means business
“Evan Paul Cudworth, a party coach, a role that he said he always took on socially but made into a job in 2021 to help people craft healthier social lives, told me that one of his most powerful friend experiences came after he moved to New York in his early 20s and started going to nightclubs…”
read the full article
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"Fun is Dead" Party Coach & clients in WashPost
In a controversial article that attracted 2800+ comments, “party coach” makes national headlines for daring to help people rediscover fun.
Read article at WashPost (paywall).
Read a PDF of the article.
Listen to me spill my guts:
If there’s one skill I developed over hundreds of dingy afterparties, it was an ability to OVERSHARE.
Thankfully, we now have “podcasts” where humans can explore deep (dark, funny, vulnerable) conversations in the light of day.
Thank you for all these friends who have invited me on to chat on their platforms. Topics range from:
Grief & addiction/depression after the death of my mom
Midwest upbringing, faith, & sexuality
Sobriety, moderation, and “not being sure”
Long, winding path through the music & party scenes, to eventually starting PARTY COACH and how I work with clients
stop chasing.
enjoy being.
no more slogging through the nostalgia of your past…
supercharge your social life
& feel healthier than ever.
Many coaches promise “optimization.”
I help you let go and be more yourself.
Coaches often flood you with boring courses you’ll never watch or complete.
Not here. You’ll be “in the field” building mindset & resilience.
Most self-improvement communities are pits of toxic positivity.
In this house—we say it like it is.
TESTIMONIALS
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